Wednesday, 12 October 2016

Who Loves A Bit of Dressing Up?

Hands up who likes dressing up? Are you a lover or a hater? Three guesses which I am. Of course I am. I am a LOVER! WOOHOO! I love that shiz to death! There’s nothing more fun to me than making a big old deal about something with full blown costume thrown in….it completely adds to the excitement! If you give me an invite which has the immortal words “Fancy Dress” on it…you can double dutch bet your bottom dollar I’ll be there!

Why do people like to dress up so much? Well it’s a little bit of fantasy isn’t it? You get to play someone or something else for a few hours. You can completely change persona if you feel like it! My parents had a 70s themed Ruby Wedding party and people didn’t even recognise me. I loved it! “Look, it’s me JESS! ….see?” I was so over excited, bless.

It can also be quite ceremonial. When a friend had her 40th last year, we were all instructed to come in medieval gowns and the venue was the basement of a medieval castle. That felt very ceremonious and grand.

It’s also quite a traditional thing to do, especially around Halloween. People used to go Mumming and Guising (yes this is completely lifted from Wiki!) dressing in disguise and going from house to house reciting songs for food. How it’s degenerated into hoards of sticky kids dressed up in highly flammable neon and black clothing with their hands out demanding fistfuls of e-numbers and sugar, I DON’T know.


I also wondered a little bit about the psychology of dressing up and wanted to know if anyone on the interwebs had a psychological explanation for those of us who love a face thick with grease paint, silly wigs and comical pants. And the two main theories (quoted in this article) I found were (loosely) that people who are drawn to fancy dress tend to be either people who like to reinvent themselves or people who are immature! People who reinvent themselves tend to frequently change careers or can be social chameleons. Well the later is certainly true for me. I tend to adopt how I act to fit in with those around me. Which is not probably something I should freely admit to because perhaps it makes me sound like a phoney…but I would say mostly I do it to make who I am with feel comfortable. Actually I am not sure that’s better…now I sound completely sanctimonious! Oh god…I don’t know!

The other theory being that people like the childishness of dressing up, and it’s a form of nostalgia and a recreation of the excitement we felt as kids when we did so. I think this is definitely true for me. I am EXTREMELY childish and downright refuse to grow up. You can’t make me! This is why I’m obsessed with Christmas too. I like food, presents, sparkly things and fizz and I want it all NOW…there I said it!

Is it true that for the most part men are not as fond of it as women? Is that a sexist statement? I ask because I truly don’t know and would love to hear your experiences. I do know that I find it attractive when a man is willing to make a fool of himself (which is good given that my husband is a dab hand!). I think that’s part of the attraction, to not take yourself so seriously.

So why then, in the last 10 odd years or so, has it become “tradition” for girls to dress up as “sexy” versions of Halloween characters?! This utterly baffles me. I was asking friends online about this earlier and realised that it really is just a female thing. Because you get “sexy witch” outfits but you sure as shit don’t get sexy wizard costumes! What is up with that?

Now don’t get me wrong… I can dress like a ho bag as much as the next person…nothing wrong with occasionally wanting to display the goods….but when it seems to be the only option available to buy….I have serious what-the-fuck-itis.

And don’t even get me started on the choice for larger ladies. Thankfully Kellie from Big Fashionista has done exactly that in her scathing piece about ASOS and it’s pathetic collection for the chubs. Including a pink, crushed velvet wrap dress. Because that just screams HALLOWEEN doesn’t it?!

Here are some brilliant pics/ideas my friends shared with me of their costumes over the years. They are a mixed bunch between sexy and silly and that’s totally cool. I am all about the choice, peeps!

Sarah from Whimsical Mumblings says: I don't like the conventional costumes. Witches/vampires etc. Apart from on children, they're cute. I like film characters, cartoons or jokey costumes. When I was hugely pregnant i dressed up as a nun. Get it? This year i'm going as Coraline!














Jade from Late for Reality:  I always like to go scary for Halloween but often family parties are the most inappropriate place to go all out gore! I did Maleficent last year which was awesome! My best tip would be to concentrate on the hair and makeup then go simple on the outfit. It is a lot cheaper than making a costume. 






Kelly from Kelly Allen Writer says: It's my FAVE time of year and this month I get to dress up at least 4 times! I like to mix it up and do what I want and SEXY might be part of it but it might not, but I don't overthink the sexy side, I do what I want and don't really care what anyone thinks. I once went as a half fine half burns victim and terrified everyone at Uni, I've been a zombie several times, vampire... Etc tonight I am a 'host' for the kids event so a mask and a big green tulle skirt and then for Halloween I am going for a skeleton vibe, we have rocky horror next weekend and then a few events where I will be whatever takes my fancy, maybe a dead pirate... I just love it to death!!!! Xxx


Cathryn from CardiffMummy SaysOh gosh, I remember at university we all dressed up for Halloween one year and decided to go gruesome, whereas most girls went sexy. We just thought it would be a good laugh. We painted our faces bright green as witches, my friend stuck rice crispies on her face as warts. We went to a fab party and despite how hideous I looked, I remember talking to the man who is now my husband for ages.However, the green face paints left us all with a green-yellow tinge that did not come off for a few days. I was mortified! The next year we went sexy!These days, I don't think sexy is appropriate as I have three small children - but I do love to dress up usually as a witch or a cat.



Sara-Jayne from Keeping up with the Jones FamilyI've been a pregnant pumpkin, female Frankenstein and corpse bride so far :)

Naomi from Tattooed Mummy’s Randoms: I always want to be sexy, not just at Halloween, but not slutty. Just being semi naked or wearing a tutu isn't sexy. I've been a bride of dracula, a bat, and this year I'll be wearing a morphsuit! I'm a fan of being scary though, as that's what the tradition of Halloween is about, so it's never not a scary character , I don't like the American idea of just dressing as anything you fancy









So what about you? Do you like dressing up? Or do you think it's just for kids? 



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30 comments :

  1. Yay! I am not alone! I LOVE dressing up for Hallowe'en since it's the only generally acceptable time for me to be a kid again ;) Love your outfits!!!

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    1. Thanks lovely! You most certainly are NOT alone! X

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  2. Hmmm I'm not sure I'm a social chameleon or immature, maybe I'm a bit of both?! Great post and I love all the stories! I'm all about the choice too!!! Mwah x

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    1. Hahahah! They are THEORIES! God I didn't think about the fact that I am telling other people who like dressing up that they are immature or social chameleons! How rude!!! Don't over think it....you're you and that's it. A crazy girl who likes dressing up...end of! XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

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  3. I do love dressing up! I used to love it right up until I finished uni (I feel like I spent half my uni days in fancy dress!), and then kind of went through a stage where I didn't want to, but now since having kids I love it again! I think it's good for the kids to see the parents joining in too. Fab photos by the way xx

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    1. Oh yes that's a good point too Cathryn....it IS good for kids to see their parents dressing up and having fun. My parents had a sci fi party when I was about 9 and I still remember the crazy efforts my parents friends had gone to...it was fantastic! XXXX

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  4. I love dressing up - a few years ago a went to our local second hand store and was able to put together a mad hatter costume. That's my favourite of my recent Halloweens. We don't go anywhere so I just wear a costume to work for the day and then I hand out candy at home. Most of my friends were not dress-up types when I was in university but my kids love it now!
    #StayClassyMama

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    1. Aw I love that you dress up on your own! I do too! Hee hee! XXXX

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  5. I love dressing up - and definitely think it is the child in me.

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  6. Not a big fan, but I can understand why some people are. I know I'm boring ;) T on the other hand, absolutely loves it!

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  7. Oh I hate it! But definitely love it for the kids! x

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  8. I'm a big kid at heart and like the idea of dressing up. In fact, every halloween I'm out there dressed like a witch. My husband would say that I don't need much makeup for that!!!

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  9. Having just come back from DisneyWorld you wouldn't BELIEVE how many adults you see dressed up over there. The best thing is no one bats an eyelid at any of it! If people were like that here I feel a lot more adults wouldn't worry about how they look when dressing up for events ;)

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  10. I'm not a fan but can see why people do love dressing up though.

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  11. It's all good fun. We have had plenty of epic fancy dress parties at our house, it's a great laugh :)
    Awesome costumes by the way x

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  12. I have it admit I am not a fan, pumpkin carving is about as exciting as it gets with me x

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  13. I love the proper spooky looks for Halloween. They look fab 👌🏾

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  14. I have a friend that loves to dress up. She always wants to do fancy dress parties whenever they are celebrating something. I don't really do the dress up thing.

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  15. I love dressing up but I haven't actually done it in ages! I was really hoping to do something for the kids Halloween party this year, but my daughter has cried and screamed at everything Halloween related so far. It looks like it's going to be a quiet evening instead! Still, there's always next year... ;)

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    1. Haha some kids hate it! My son doesn't like attention so he's not a big fan these days. Luckily for me, my daughter takes after me. ;)

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  16. I love fancy dress parties, not been to one for years!

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  17. I love dressing up! So much fun! The only problem it seems I never can decide what I am going to wear.

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  18. Yes I bloody do - I love it! Nothing better than a 'specific' theme fancy dress party to get your teeth in to! My Mum had a 70s birthday party a few years ago and it was literally the best thing ever! I was in my early twenties, dressed up like some kind of Charlies Angels hooker with the blonde wavy wig - surrounded by old people, dancing to Motown- loved it!
    Its another reason why I love Halloween (not to dress up as a hooker) just the dressing up part for the kids is great fun #stayclassymama
    ps. the Nun pose is the fucking funniest thing I've seen all day x

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    1. I'm never put off by being surrounded by oldies. I am frequently at my parents' parties. Yey for dressing up and drunk dancing! MORE MORE MORE!!!!

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